25 life lessons I learned by 25 (part 1 of 2)
- Spend time with your parents
The most important lesson I have learned is that time is limited. Spend as much time with your parents while you have the chance because a day will come when you realize that everything you prioritized over spending time with them was not worth it. While you can, ask them questions about their life, learn about your family history and gain knowledge to pass onto your own kids. As much as it is important for you, it is, without a doubt, significantly more meaningful to them. I truly believe we will only fully understand the love they have for us when we become parents ourselves. Call them once a day or visit them. Make it is a priority.
- Talk to new people and strangers; befriend them
Invite others and accept others. Sometimes people just need to feel welcomed and need a friend. If you ever see someone alone or uncomfortable at a party or elsewhere, approach them and welcome them to your group. Or, if you know someone new to a city, go out of your way to help them get settled. I’m sure if you didn’t know anyone in an unfamiliar place, you would be grateful if someone made you feel welcomed. It’s these little things, though inconvenient at times, which make a difference in others’ lives.
- Care for your mental health
Stress, anxiety, depression or any mental health problems or issues are not to be taken lightly. If you’re feeling down, do something about it whether that means exercising, keeping yourself busy, talking to a friend or loved one about it or getting professional help.
- Stand up for yourself and others
Don’t let yourself get bullied in your personal or work life. Love yourself enough to stick up for yourself. This also applies to others. If you care about someone, stand up for them even when they’re not present. Or, if you see someone getting unfairly treated, take it upon yourself to be their guardian.
- Value time and experience over work and money
Yes, career and money are important to take care of yourself, your partner and your kids; however, missing out on more imperative things such as spending time with loved ones and experiencing places and events together for the sake of that, is not. At the end of the day, you will remember the experiences you had and how they made you feel, not how much money you made.
- Prying is okay if it means helping or saving someone
There are restrictions and boundaries when it comes to how much we can push someone to do something. But, if it’s for their good, it’s okay to push further. If you know someone is depressed, for example, ask about it, whether they want to talk about it or not, because they may really need someone to guide them in the right direction even if not immediately evident. Being a good friend doesn’t mean accepting their bad actions, it means helping them improve it. Pushing your loved ones to do something that is essentially good for them and their physical, emotional or mental health shows that you care.
- Don’t continue delaying what you think will make you happy
Sometimes timings just don’t work out and sometimes life takes you on a bumpy ride but it is important to pursue things that will give you satisfaction in life. Make some time for the things that put a smile on your face.
- What you wear or what you drive or what house you live in doesn’t matter
If you like to dress up or enjoy interior design or if you’re a car fanatic, then by all means go for it! But, there is no point to do something, buy something or wear something to impress others. It’s just not worth it!
- Eat healthy and exercise
Our body isn’t going to continue digesting as great as it did when we were younger and overtime, the sugars and carbs will catch up. Therefore, prioritize healthy eating and exercising to better your overall health, happiness and life. Still a work in progress for me!
- Do something besides your full-time job
Find a hobby that interests you. It’s important to have something in your life besides a nine-to-five job. Discover what keeps you going and pursue it after work.
- Don’t give up on business ideas
If you have a business idea then take the time to work it out and pursue it! You’ll never really find the right time to actively work on it but if you take a little time to work on it daily, you never know where it may lead! Additionally, if it helps you earn extra cash, that’s great, because a savings account is important long term.
- Anger and saying things in anger will be regretted so watch what you say and what you do. Patience is important.
Watch your tongue – words hurt. Don’t say or act on something in anger because when that anger subsides and clarity arrives, you will regret it. Therefore, when the time comes, take a pause and take a step back.
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